Open Relationships...here's my $0.08…
I think "open relationships" are what we have decided to call people that are just playing the field. I don't agree with that definition. Individuals that are still getting to know themselves and getting to understand what they like can go out, flirt, and in some instances be intimate with who they like. One doesn't have to be a whore about it...but there is nothing wrong with it. In those cases, I’d call it dating. I’ll touch on that later.
Open relationships or "an Understanding" is when 2 people have agreed or it’s understood that although they care for one another, they choose to not be or just can’t be committed. Again, when they are together, they will do what couples do, but when they are not together, they will do whatever else. Are they bad or good? If the communication is not on point, there can be trouble. I talk about this because I ended up in an “open relationship.” This was not my initial intent but it happened. I met a guy and we hit it off. I found out that he had a girlfriend and I made the decision to continue to talk to him. We both shared how we felt, but we both knew that we weren’t committed. How could we be? He had a girlfriend and in my case I was still considered by the government, as single. It was an experience. When we were together, people thought we were together, officially. We were the perfect non-couple. Being me, I wanted more. Yeah I know, I knew what it was in the beginning, but it happened.
Open relationships are not healthy. Even if the communication is efficient, it’s natural that someone will start to want more. Like me.... It is not normal to put feelings and emotions on hold, either act on them or move on. I got some advice from folks. They said I was impatient. But I had to take a step back and look at those individuals and their situations. Needless to say, don’t take advice from folks that can’t even handle their own can of worms. But I digress, I am happy to say that I moved on. It just made sense. We all needed a boost of maturity. BUT this is not to say that Open relationships don’t work for others, but I think it works for individuals who are not looking for the real essence of love or a true commitment. I look at is as someone who doesn’t want the responsibility or accountability a committed relationship will require.
What do you think?
